My 2016 – carry on (happiness and hope)

Hope smiles from the threshold of  year to come, whispering ‘It will be happier…’ Alfred Tennyson

Worsley Woods Parkrun Marker - 1 January 2015

Worsley Woods Parkrun Marker – 1 January 2015

I don’t make resolutions in the conventional sense of ‘New Year, New Me’ as I think the pressure of expectation often makes people fail. I just believe if you want to change something whether it’s big or small, just do it.  Pick a day, start and try your best… it doesn’t have to be on 1st January either.   It’s also important to remember that small changes count just as much big ones;  everyone has to start somewhere… and this year in 2016, it’s about carrying on, finding more happiness and new adventures.

In many ways, 2015 was a terrible time which had a massive impact on me – my friend Steve died very suddenly, which had an overwhelming impact on me mentally, physically and emotionally.  I’m still working thorough this and getting myself back to where I want to be.  Then my role changed at work very suddenly and there are huge rearrangements next year across the organisation, so there’s on going uncertainty.  I have no idea what I’ll be doing and where I’ll be at the end of 2016. But I know My Chap will be by my side holding my hand (metaphorically too) – he’s my rock. My family and my pals have been great too (mostly).  I’m a happy person generally, but my resilience, energy levels and health have taken a major hit in 2015.   But, this trauma has reminded me about what I believe….

Things I believe:

  • change comes from within  – if you don’t want to do it, you’ll fail
  • only you can make a change in YOUR LIFE – other people can support you (or hinder) but it’s ultimately up to YOU ALONE.
  • The ‘Detox Industry’ is tosh – juice plus, foods that cleanse your liver, eat more mung beans, what ever don’t work.  Your body detoxes every day that’s what your kidneys and liver are for.
  • eat less sugar, alcohol and sweet things –  exercise and move more you’ll see a difference – but most of all be happy with who you are! And don’t body shame anyone else either.
  • be passionate about and do the things you love whether it’s a hobby, work, whatever, as often as you can.
  • spend time with people who make you happy (and not suck your energy/be negative)
  • look for the positive every day – my #100happydays has helped me with this
  • trust your instincts – especially about online dating
  • life isn’t a dress rehearsal – Live it! 

1. Memory  Jar

This is a clever idea – basically  the idea is to put good memories, things you’re pleased you’ve achieved or congratulations to yourself, as often as they occur – and read them all at the end of the year.  It’s often a good way of seeing how far you’ve come and reminding you of good things that happened during the year.  I’ve not decorated mine yet as my crafty stuff is stuck at the back of the cupboard. But I’ve got a jar with brightly coloured post-it notes – it also ties in with the #100happydays project and my journals.   Sometimes these jars are called ‘remembulation jars’ which is a right mouthful 😉

  • More ideas for a jar.

2. #100happydays

It’s a very simple premise – every day make a note and take a picture of someone, something or somewhere that makes you happy. Can you be happy for 100 days in a row.   I’m about 2/3rds of the way though this and it’s been a really interesting way of looking for happiness everyday – and I think I’m going to carry on with taking photos.  Sometimes, it can be tricky to take a photo what’s made me happy as it’s not something physical.  I think that’s where the memory jar might come in.  I am terribly behind with my overview posts about #100happydays so I need catch up – oops!

3. Journals

I’m using a couple of journals at the moment – Calm Journal and Daily Greatness Journal – the Calm Journal has been particularly good as it has things to do in different areas of your life like work, getting out into nature and food, for example.  Mindfulness techniques run through it too. I’ve only written in pencil so far…

Calm Journal - Michael Acton Smith #100happydays

#100happydays Calm Journal – Michael Acton Smith

4.  Carry on …. more mindfulness, more tai chi and yoga too

Practising mindfulness has helped me more than I can say, and I am much better than I was in the Spring. I’ve still got a long way to go but I’ll get to where I want to be. Here are some websites and apps that might help, if you or your friends have been struggling with your mental health.   They’ve helped me greatly in 2015.

If you’re a university student, it’s fairly easy to access support via the University counselling service, and many employers, especially in the public sector, have occupational health teams to help with physical or mental illness.   But one of the most important thing to remember, is mental illness doesn’t define who you are.

I hope you all have the best 2016 you can. 

So in 2016 – I’m carrying on with my journey…I’ll be walking and maybe, just maybe running

 I’ll report back 🙂 

The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. – Lao Tzu

tress old railway line Loopline at Monton - National Cycle path 55

Loopline at Monton – National Cycle path 55 – 1 January 2016

Happiness Challenge

You can follow my photos for #100happydays challenge on twitter feed everyday (@becinmonton)

What has made you happy today?

and

where’s is your journey taking you in 2016?

*I purchased both the journals myself.

Carpe Diem

love Bec xx

 

 

 

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14 thoughts on “My 2016 – carry on (happiness and hope)

  1. Judy @ NewEnglandGardenAndThread

    Here’s hoping you have a wonderful, calming, comforting 2016. I actually walked over 1,000 miles last year by counting steps with Fitbit. This year has started off on somewhat of a negative point because I’ve been sick for a week. But, I figure I have no where to go but up from here. 🙂

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    1. Bec Post author

      Thank you Judy I hope it’s a better 2016 too – 1000 miles – that’s impressive. I was wondering whether to get a fitbit – I walk a lot at work between buildings and I take the stairs when I can. Hope you’re on the mend soon. I am getting over a horrible cold/cough too so have been a bit wiped out at work this week. Take care and thank you for reading – love bec xx

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    1. Bec Post author

      Yes just make a small change and keep going… Too many unrealistic expectations and pressure on people. Trusting your instincts are usually a good Idea. Love bec xx

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    1. Bec Post author

      Thank you – I hope it’s a better 2016 but a lot of is up to me. The #100happy days has really helped me look at things differently. It’s hard sometimes to take a picture of the thing that’s made me happy which is why I thought the memory jars were a good idea 🙂 I hope you have a really good 2016. Love bec xx

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  2. Mumaleary

    Totally agree with this- change comes from within and you have to be kind, both to yourself and others.
    Mental health is something so many people struggle with and I am so pleased it is becoming more openly discussed.
    Wishing you all the best for 2016 and will look forward to seeing your journey. X

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  3. getoutandseestuff

    Such a good outlook on New Years resolutions… I really need to try more yoga this year, thanks for the reminder!

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