“Hope” Leia Organa in Rouge One (2016)
I’ve been thinking about Winter alot this week, it was the metrological start of Winter on last Friday, 1st December. It’s been cold, but sunny in Manchester, we’ve had a couple of nights of frost so that’s finished off the final flowers – apart from the perennial wallflowers and some violas. Christmas is on everyone’s mind – trees and decorations going up, toy adverts everywhere. I’m feeling fairly ambivalent about Christmas this year – despite looking forward to spending time with My Chap. We had a wonderful wedding day, and we’re incredibly happy together. But this has been a truly dreadful year – we each lost a brother this year. Both incredibly loved and missed – I can’t express in words how devastated I am about my wonderful brother Matt – I think about him every day and I always will.
However, I know that we have to carry on with life. Christmas coming has got me thinking of childhood memories too. I did something I haven’t done for decades and bought an Advent Calendar.
But first, in this week’s In A Vase on Monday, I’ve picked Lady in Black which is a bit of an unusual fuchsia – it’s a hardy, climbing fuchsia. My mum, who loves fuchsias, bought it for me a couple of years ago. it’s still getting established and is only about two foot high and not really filled out yet. It lives at the end of our garden on our decking, so it’s the very last fuchsia still flowering. There were more flowers when I picked them but they fell off as I walked up the garden – typical. I’m only a day late for this link up which makes a change 🙂
The fuchsia is displayed in a bud vase which has appeared in IAVOM regularly, as have fuchsias – including for the last two weeks
- 22 November 2017 (not on a Monday) – (In a Vase on Monday – Hello from the hardy fuchsias
- 30 Nov 2017 (not on a Monday)- In a Vase on Monday -(journaling) old favourites and new memories
- check out #fuchsia
The print came from a magazine – it’s a picture of a Wolf along with the three moons associated with winter – Cold moon (December), Wolf moon (January) and Snow Moon (February). Most of these names originate from Native American or Celtic descriptions. There are three other prints, so I’m sure they’ll be appearing on the blog another time too.
I’ve not got a picture of the decking in winter, but here’s a photo from a few years ago – it’s my sanctuary. We spend alot of time, relaxing and thinking especially as it gets the last of the evening sun. #dreamingofsummer. You’ll also notice yoda peeking out from the fuchsias. He makes me smile every time I see him. He’s appeared on the blog many times too. check out #yoda
It’s no ordinary Advent calendar it’s a Lego Star Wars one. I’ve thought about buying one for a couple of years but this year thought I’d buy it and think of all the happy times with Matt. We had a very large lego collection and spent hours playing with it.
Star Wars came out when I was 11 and my brother a year younger. We went to see it with our amazing Uncle Fred, who loved the theatre and films. We saw it in Leicester Square in the West End of London and I remember the crawler opening very clearly
‘A long time ago in a galaxy far, far away…’ Star Wars – A New Hope (1976)
and ducking as the Imperial battle cruise passed over. We loved it, and watched the film three or four times that summer. And countless times since then. We had lightsabers toys at Christmas – wish we’d kept them but I think they were in a right state. We were hooked on Star Wars and watched the subsequent films many, many times. I’ve written about Star Wars on the blog too – it’s definitely a shared experience for people my age watching all three films at the cinema, waiting for the next instalment, and like many I wasn’t particularly impressed with all aspects of the prequals.
My Chap wasn’t much of a fan, as he’d only seen Phantom Menace (1999) and all he could remember was the jar jar binks character (not impressed). But he’s taken me to see Force Awakens (2015) and Rouge One (2016) and enjoyed them very much, so I think he’s slowly getting hooked. Only a minor eye roll when I bought home the calendar. But, I’m looking forward to opening the doors, building the toys and thinking of my brother. My favourite characters are Leia and yoda – there’s a lot of wise thinking in Star Wars including advice for managers 😉.
I really must read The Princess Diaries by Carrie Fisher 🙂 although I’m so nackered I think I might need to get an audio book instead. I read Postcards from the Edge many years ago and loved it. She’s a great loss to the world and also taken far too young.
I’m so excited about The Last Jedi – fortunately I know quite a few geeky Star Wars fans so will have people to talk to about it with, but it won’t be the same not taking to my brother about it.
My Chap and I are both hoping that things will improve in 2018 – I’m doing my best with exercise, eating well, mindfulness, yoga but most of all being kind to myself and self-care too. But time heals and helps – and hope helps too.
#365daysofselfcare this week involved:
- Managing #anhouroutside everyday – I went for walks around the neighbourhood and at work, and gardening. One day it rained so persistently I was potting up in the porch.
- Finding some new mindfulness articles and guided meditations about managing pain 🙂
- Ordering the Christmas food so I don’t need to stress, running round to get it at the last minute. My Chap works ridiculously long hours in the run up to Christmas so can’t do much to help.
- Getting out the Star Wars dvds 🙂
- Booking a Christmas wreath making course. Cathy who hosts in a Vase on Monday over at Rambling in the Garden has her door wreath as her ‘Vase’. Do have a look 🙂
Are you a star wars fan or are you looking forward to another film over the Christmas Holidays?
There’s a fuchsia called star wars but it’s stopped flowering in my garden now… But it will be back – it’s always here like The Force
Love Bec xx xx xx
P.S. I bought My Chap a Thornton’s chocolate Advent Calendar so he wasn’t left out 😉 I bought both items full price and wasn’t asked to write about them.